Maybe your question was looking for something different, though. Maybe you wanted to know the impact of age on our bodies, minds, and lifestyles? Grey hair can show up anywhere, and you’ll embrace sunscreen in a way you never did before. It’s harder to stay in shape, but I’m more active at 46 than I ever was at 26. I snowboard, play soccer, and ride a motorcycle—all of which I started doing later in life. Maybe you wanted to know if we have a secret society or a special language. I think that’s called AARP. I’m not in it yet. As for the special language, I think it’s just generational references from a time before web browsers and smartphones. Maybe you wanted financial or career tips? I’d say have the right amount of insurance and review it regularly. Career-wise know specifically what you want to get out of your job (think skills, but also title and pay). Once you reach that, get another job before you turn bored or bitter. None of these are secrets, though. Men typically will seek out women who are younger than they are. For whatever reason, men seem to like their partners to be younger rather than older. There are, of course, exceptions, but in general, it isn’t unusual for men to want to date women 5–10 years younger than they are. At best, the woman has to be the same age—-if the woman is older by more than five years or so, the man in general won’t be interested unless the woman looks younger than they are. As others has mentioned, the older you are, the more one gets set in their ways-they like things the way they are and find it hard to change their habits and preferences to accommodate another person. This isn’t necessarily something that has to be a problem as long as you make the effort to recognize when you are doing this and try to fix it. Most people after 30 likely will have children from previous relationships. If you don’t mind being a stepparent to someone else’s child, then this isn’t a problem, but a lot of people don’t want to start a new marriage with another person’s kid. Men in particular can be reluctant to date or marry women who already have kids. If this turns you off, then that means a whole group of people are off the market for you, diminishing the size of the pond you can fish in.
Time is a factor. It gets harder to make time to date and find people to date after you leave school and launch a career. Many people after 30 are building a career—and that can take a lot of time away that would have been used to date and form a relationship depending on the job/field. Major sacrifices like having to travel a lot, being relocated often, and having to work late hours are things most young professionals have to do in order to build a career. Here in the US, young people are having a terrible time trying to build a life that would be stable enough financially to marry and have children due to student debt and lack of decent paying jobs for non-college educated people as well as non-STEM degrees. Most men probably don’t want to date women if their finances are tight, and women don’t want to date men who are grownups but still living at home with no end date to such an arrangement in sight. The older you are, the pickier/wiser you are. When you’re 20 or so, you’ll go out with anyone who seems to be interested in you and you can have fun with-you don’t have a lot of filters to screen people other than they can’t be unattractive or boring. Twenty year olds also put up with a lot of crap in a relationship like flakiness, immaturity, selfishness, stupid behavior, a lie or two that a sufficiently smooth operator can make you forget about, etc. As you get older, you realize you can’t build a decent relationship on flakes, lies, stupid/risky/selfish/controlling behavior, and you stop wasting time tolerating relationships with people who practice such behavior. You also get tired of dealing with it. Eventually you learn that it is exhausting to deal with flakes, liars, stupid people, selfishness, etc, it isn’t worth it to be around that just to have a warm body you can call your significant other, and that it’s better to be alone than crying your eyes out or stressing out over a boyfriend or girlfriend who just lied to you for the umpteenth time, or did something stupid or selfish and hurt your feelings. You start to smarten up, establish minimum standards, take out the trash, and insist on good people with good habits-which means you probably end up dating less. It becomes about quality, not quantity.